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Asking HIM to marry me...

Asking HIM to marry me...

Proposing to your partner is nerve wrecking, but can even be more so when you want to ask HIM to marry you. You have to move past the traditional inclination that men should ask women plus the pressure of doubtful opinions from friends and family.

However, if you know that this is something you truly wish to do and that he is your Mr. Right we have a few ideas and guidelines to help make it a little easier for you.

1. Be sure that you and your partner are ready for marriage
Getting married is a huge step and you need to make sure that you are ready for the commitment for the right reasons. Marriage will not solve any lingering problems in a relationship nor will it save a troubled one. Hopefully during the course of your relationship you have discussed marriage before and sussed out how he views commitment and marriage. It does not necessarily mean that he is ready for marriage, but talking about it will help you get an idea where he stands on the matter.

2. It’s about him
Don’t lose sight that you are proposing to him, thus make the proposal about him. You know him best so use that knowledge to your advantage. For example, if he likes fishing take him on a fishing trip and put a little note in his fishing box “Will you marry me?”. You can always end if off with a lovely dinner at a fancy restaurant if you so wish. You don’t have to ignore your desires completely but find a middle-way so that the proposal is memorable to you both.

3. Planning the proposal
Be prepared. You don’t want to be caught off guard or worse, be super spontaneous and have him not hear you pop the question over the noise of a street cafe!

  • Pick the date and venue where you will do the proposal.
  • Make sure your environment is one where he feels comfortable and relaxed.
  • Write down what you want to say to him. Tell him how you feel about him and why you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
  • If you decide to have friends and family present make sure they know what they need to do beforehand and make sure only a few know. Nothing worse than a blabber mouth aunt ruining the proposal.
  • You will know your guy best, but take into consideration that the pressure of a public proposal might be too much for him. Best then to rather propose privately.
  • Be creative. Use his hobbies, interests and surroundings to make the proposal memorable, fun and celebratory!
  • Keep it simple. It does not have to be a Shakespearean sonnet and we all know guys get a little uncomfortable with a truck full of emotions. Just let it be honest, sincere and from the heart.

4. Dealing with the aftermath
If he decided to say yes, the next steps would be to inform your close circle of friends and family. Be prepared for any negative comments or silly jokes about a girl proposing to a guy. Ignore it and continue to celebrate the love between the two of you.

We cannot pretend that we are all the same and sometimes all a guy needs is for a girl to say “Hey, I love you! Marry me!” It’s risky but what if he says “Yes”! Choose love and always, always celebrate it.

MBD Team